My name is Jen Sotham. I am a 40 year old writer, and have been diagnosed with stage four metastatic melanoma.   I created this blog to chronicle the emotional, mental and physical aspects of my battle with this ugly mutherf*cker, both to keep my friends and family informed as well as to offer information and insight to others who are struggling with this beast or know someone who is. I hope that my words provide some solace, perhaps a sprinkle of insight, usable information and maybe a laugh or two, to those who read them.

The Buh-Buh-Backstory

2014.12.10 The Worst Brings Out the Best

2014.12.18 Sarang Hae

2014.12.26 Steps and Stuff

2014.12.30 Sh*t Just Got Real

2015.01.07 Ready, Set…

2015.01.07 Treatment Deets

2015.01.21 Special Effects

2015.02.10 I’ll Take Words That Begin With ‘C’ For Five Hundred, Alex

2015.03.19 #blogupdate #beenawhile #here’swhy

2015.03.24 A-ha vs. Mmm-hmmm

2015.04.05 TKO in Four Rounds

2015.05.18 The Delicate Art of Not Seeming Ungrateful

2015.06.25 Waxing Parenthetical

2015.07.05 grateful

2015.09.18 gestation (or, time to make the donuts)

2015.11.19 the true meaning of the word ‘hero’

2015.12.14 the year in re-view

2016.01.13 la-la-land

2016.02.29 things that go bump in the night

2016.03.30 the other shoe

2016.04.03 bullet points

2016.04.22 hell and back

2016.04.27 cyclone mel

2016.05.03 goonies never say die

2016.05.19 postcard from transylvania

2016.06.09 sun in the sky, you know how i feel

2016.06.21 cure magazine: a kick in the asana

2016.07.08 cure magazine: meeting my cancer doppelganger

2016.07.17 the verdict

2016.08.26 peace out, old normal

2016.10.20 back in the saddle again

2016.11.14 cure magazine: i’ll take the cancer, with a side of…

2016.12.08 lights, camera, cancer

2017.01.17 bombs away

2017.02.19 the good

2017.04.05 red herrings and silver linings

2017.06.08 epitaph for novelty

2017.07.14 chapter…um…six? i think?

2017.08.05 one flew over the red herring

2017.08.26 the good, the bad, and the fucking weird

2017.11.07 don’t think twice, it’s alright

You Do Care: Notes and updates about my YouCaring Campaign

6 Responses to About

  1. audrey lussoro says:

    Praying for you!


  2. Sandi Porter says:

    Thanks for the updates Jen- isn’t it amazing how quickly you become an expert on important life matters in such a short time. It sounds like your medical team is competent AND warm… not always the case for sure.
    Keep the words coming.


  3. Hi Jen, Thank you so much for writing about your experience with cancer. I am sorry that your fundraising campaign did not reach the $75K. I recently lost a very good friend (of more than a decade) to cancer in South Korea and my sister-in-law also has category 4 cancer, she is in Seoul. I am the deputy editor of The Korea Observer and would love to interview you about your unique perspective on cancer, which could assist others in the way they process the symptoms they are experiencing. “Special effects”…. you are obviously an awesome person to be around and I really hope you are strong enough to get through this! Would you be willing to be interviewed? If you don’t feel up to it, could I use your story and get some quotes from your blog? My Facebook is https://www.facebook.com/james.hyams.thefirst and hotmail is james_hyams@hotmail.com

    P.S – I am sorry about your Grandma.


  4. 현경 says:

    Hi Its me again. . .
    How is it going…?
    Im wonder how are you…loving you


  5. Jenny says:

    Jen I just smiled reading your latest blog and I don’t smile much lately. I’ve been diagnosed with stage 4 inoperable gallbladder cancer at age 42. I’ve done the first round of chemo drugs they worked a few months then didn’t, now on new ones with a 25% chance of them working. Hoping to get on immunotherapy drugs through my hospital. Keep writing if you can make people with cancer smile you are doing something right!


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